NLP Coaching


Just like a sports coach trains people to reach physical excellence, I help you coach your mind to achieve emotional & psychological excellence.

Coaching with NLP goes beyond coaching as it often leads to Transformation!

Coaching engages you to use your infinite potential to design successful, fulfilling, and happy life.

What Makes NLP Coaching Effective?

You will quickly be convinced of the value and effectiveness of NLP Coaching because:

  • Solution focused approach enables you to achieve positive results in a shorter timeframe than in some more lengthy modalities. 
  • Using your conscious and unconscious minds you can make profound changes with long lasting results that are safe, easy, precise, and powerful.

I used to be very fearful of meeting new people in social settings. I’d turn down invitations to functions and work dos as meeting new people would make me very uncomfortable. All this changed after completing a single consultation session with Julia. Almost miraculously overnight I became a lot more confident and calm in the presence of others. - Business Insurance Consultant, NZ

Working with a Coach

Your coach is fully committed to you, gives you their undivided attention, and provides a safe and stimulating environment in which not only you can resolve challenges and overcome obstacles, but more importantly – discover your own resources and strengths so you can design your life.

Working with an NLP coach is like hiring a specialist for the brain. NLP shows you how you can use your brain with precision to get it to do what you want it to do.

To get your computer or a car to work, you’d hire a specialist or use a User Manual. Our brain is like a biological computer but no one provided a User Manual for the Brain! This is exactly what you can do with NLP - reprogram your responses and behaviours so you can stop doing what no longer works and do more of what gets you the results you want.  Imagine what you can do when you know how you can upgrade your thoughts, habits, beliefs, and emotions.

A year ago I came to see you for an NLP session to exercise and to cut down on my boozing. I only had one session with you but yesterday I completed the AKL half marathon, I’m now tee-total, and I’m also now a yoga teacher. Magic, all of that from one session! - Claire Balfour, Auckland

What is NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and What Makes it Work?

NLP allows us to tap into how our brains code experiences, and this is what enables us to make such surprisingly rapid changes. - Connirae & Steve Andreas, NLP developers, USA

NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming is the study of human excellence and success. It provides amazingly simple and powerful methods for changing the way you think, feel, behave, and learn so that you consistently achieve the results you want in your personal and professional life.

Neuro refers to the neurological system and the brain which connect the body organs, immune system, bones, etc.; and to how we use our minds, bodies, and 5 senses (see, hear, feel, smell, taste) to translate our experience into thought processes.

Linguistic refers to the way we use language to make sense of our experience and communicate it to ourselves and others. Through our 5 senses we take in information from the world, code and store it internally in our own unique way. These internal codes, or internal representations, shape our mental worlds.

Programming refers to the way we code our experience. Our thinking styles are like ‘software’ of the brain. This includes our thoughts, feelings, emotions, behaviours, responses, skills, beliefs, and personality. Changing, or upgrading, this ‘mental software’ allows us to let go of behaviours and responses that no longer work for us, and achieve the goals we want now. Therefore, the results we achieve in our life are the consequence of our personal programmes.


NLP is now used in so many areas that you have most likely heard of it under other names – Anthony Robbins inspirational trainings, accelerated learning in education, photographic memory, succeeding in sport and sales, curing physical misalignments, etc. NLP was developed in the 1970s by Richard Bandler, a mathematician, and John Grinder, a professor of linguistics. They studied and modelled the work of people who achieved extraordinary success in the area of human potential, such as Milton Erickson, a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist, and Virginia Satir, the “grandmother” of family therapy.

NLP offers a solution focused approach, i.e. rather than focusing on “what went wrong” (problem) we pay attention to “What would you like to happen now?” (solution).

The Power of the Subconscious Mind

The brain can be described as a biological computer. Just as when we put information into a computer via the keyboard, when saved, it gets processed and stored on the hard drive, in a similar way we take in information through our five senses (the things we see, hear, taste, feel, and smell) and transfer, or code, it to the subconscious mind to process and store.

We represent the information to ourselves as a combination of these five senses and in our unique way. This is why when two people have a similar experience, e.g. see the same movie or go to the same party, the experience they relate having is never the same! For one person a movie could be enjoyable, and another could find it upsetting. In this way there is no ultimate ‘reality’, but only an individual interpretation of reality connected to the one who experiences it. The interpretations we make out of an event depend on the ‘software’ we are running. This ‘software’ is run at the subconscious level, where our primary functions are stored, such as:

  • body functions (breathing, growing hair, healing, etc.)
  • habitual behaviours (driving a car, speaking languages, etc.)
  • memories, emotions, skills
  • resources to make changes

How Do We Learn What We Are Good at?

All our behaviours are memorised, or “learned”. Some are learned consciously (like driving a car), and some are learned unconsciously (like a fear of spiders). The more the behaviour is repeated, the better it runs, until it becomes automatic. It then runs at the unconscious level outside the conscious awareness, i.e. we no longer need to concentrate on it. When we first learn to drive, we consciously think of where the wheel, pedals, mirrors are and what we need to do with them before even starting a car. Once we have learned and memorised the sequence, we no longer think of it consciously and driving happens almost automatically. This unconscious competence is the very structure of excellence. We excel by repetition.

The same is accurate for negative behaviours, the ones we are not happy about. For example, imagine a child who once got scared of a spider. Next time they encounter a spider, they remember to “get scared”. Then they keep repeating this behaviour, and in a while even pictures or the word ‘spider’ cause the frightening response. The more they repeat a negative behaviour, the more of an expert they become at it, so much so that suddenly it seems they are not doing it anymore. It seems ‘just happening outside of their control’, automatically!

However, these behaviours are stored and organised in the nervous system for them to keep happening automatically. And that means - we can change them! The NLP approach to personal development is very simple – it trains the unconscious mind to respond in the way that happy and healthy people do naturally, and this is not just useful to solve problems but also to create outstanding successes. Using the brain in this more effective way that leads to success involves learning new ways to visualise, talk to yourself, and create enjoyable internal feelings.

Thank you for changing my life. I can’t believe I've spent 27 yrs feeling something I didn’t need to feel, and now anxiety HAS GONE. Profound! - Frances, Auckland

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